Just a helpful insight to those women who are often the victims of the same type of partners. Abusers aren’t abusive in the beginning. They know how to be charming at first. A lot of the early signs that someone is an abuser look a lot like romance: a rush to love and commitment can be mistaken for love at first sight, minor jealousy, concern about where you are and when you’ll get home, and so on. Only when someone, who doesn’t know what they are signing up for, accepts these behaviors do they get more and more controlling and eventually turn to alienation from the victim’s friends and even family, shows of rage, threats, physical and emotional and financial abuse, etc. Many times abusers tell their victims that their last relationship cheated on them and nearly broke them, something like that, so the victim being cultivated feels sympathy for the abuser (although it’s almost certainly a lie) and is more willing to tolerate bad treatment because of everything the abuser has supposedly been through.