Just a helpful insight to those women who are often the victims of the same type of partners. Abusers aren’t abusive in the beginning. They know how to be charming at first. A lot of the early signs that someone is an abuser look a lot like romance: a rush to love and commitment can be mistaken for love at first sight, minor jealousy, concern about where you are and when you’ll get home, and so on. Only when someone, who doesn’t know what they are signing up for, accepts these behaviors do they get more and more controlling and eventually turn to alienation from the victim’s friends and even family, shows of rage, threats, physical and emotional and financial abuse, etc. Many times abusers tell their victims that their last relationship cheated on them and nearly broke them, something like that, so the victim being cultivated feels sympathy for the abuser (although it’s almost certainly a lie) and is more willing to tolerate bad treatment because of everything the abuser has supposedly been through.
Dec 16, 2019
As long as we keep looking for our true self in a world of conditional love, we remained hooked in a world of trying, failing and trying again. It is a world that fosters addictions because what it offers cannot satisfy the cravings of the heart.Our addictions make us cling to what the world proclaims as the keys to self fulfilment. These addictions create expectations that cannot but fail to satisfy our deepest needs.